Are Secret Weddings Beneficial To Your Marriage?

Posted June 27, 2011 by

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Unless you were living under a rock this weekend, you have probably heard about the secret wedding nupitals of actors Daniel Craig and Rachel Weisz.  Now many people didn’t know they were even dating, let alone engaged and although it sounds like something only Hollywood celebrities can get away with, you would be surprised to learn that real-life people actually have secret weddings as well.

According to a recent online dating survey, 39 percent of couples have secretly eloped without celebrating with their many friends and family.  Also, 90 percent of those couples have continued to flourish as spouses.  So the question is, is having a secret wedding beneficial to your marriage?  The short answer is ‘yes.’

The most common reason why couples feel like they have to marry in secret is because many feel their special day is becoming all about everybody else instead of their union.  Having a secret and private wedding ceremony with just your partner in crime is a great way to recognize the whole reason why you’re having a wedding in the first place is to celebrate the love between both of you.

Sometimes, a secret wedding occurs simply because of practical and financial reasons.  If your partner lost his or her job and is suddenly without health and dental benefits, a quickie marriage is a fast way get your spouse onto your insurance plan.

Couples who are considering a secret wedding should make sure they are doing it for the right reasons and not for shock value.  It’s best to have an official wedding after your secret ceremony just so your friends and family do not feel excluded.

Just remember that your wedding is yours and no one else’s. You’re promising to spend the rest of your life with the person you are completely devoted to.  Celebrate the way you see fit.


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Jenny Woodland
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