Are You Ready For a Relationship?

Posted June 7, 2011 by

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In a world where everyone is trained at a very young age to pair up, it may sound ludicrous to ask if you are ready for a relationship.  Of course, you’re ready.  Your career is going well and everyone around you is getting married having children.  So why wouldn’t you feel like you are ready to start dating someone new?  It might surprise you to know that you may not be as ready as you think you are.

A recent online dating poll has revealed that 80 percent of singles have jumped into relationships when they were not ready and it is an extremely common problem with people in their twenties and thirties.

Being ‘ready’ means being mature and able to handle the commitment and challenges that a long-term and stable relationship requires.  So, how do you know when you are indeed ready to take the leap?

There are four major areas that you should consider in order to assess your current degree of readiness.

Review Past Personal and Relationship Traumas

If you had unhealthy relationship patterns in the past, it is best to look back at how you handled the problems and how you resolved them.  Did you blame the other party?  Did you just think you have extremely bad luck when it comes to picking partners?  A lot of the times, people tend to deny that they are too blame for their own relationship problems.  Sometimes, you need to talk to a professional before any of your issues will ever be resolved.  Personal issues from your childhood whether it be emotional, sexual or physical abuse can affect your future relationships for years to come if not taken care of.  Never be too proud to admit you need help. It’s the first and most important step to recovering.

Do You Know Who You Are?

It may sound like as stupid question, but you would be surprised how many people jump into relationships simply because they can only identify themselves as somebody’s partner.  If you lack a positive sense of self-worth, it will be extremely difficult for you to sustain a healthy relationship.  Do you stand by your values and morals?  Are you pursuing important life goals? Do you know your own strengths and weaknesses?  How do you see yourself?  These are questions you should ask yourself and if you don’t like any of the answers, then should take the time and work on yourself before finding someone to love.

Is The Past At Rest?

If you don’t resolve past relationship issues or get closure from somebody that broke your heart, you are at risk of bringing the problems and lingering feelings into present and future relationships.  If you can’t get the closure you need, then you should talk to a Professional to help sort out your troubles.  You never want to bring excess baggage into a new relationship.  It won’t succeed if you do.

Do You Know What You Want From Your Partner?

People go into relationships for all sorts of reasons.  Unfortunately, a lot of time people go into relationships for the wrong reasons.  If you go into a relationship simply because you don’t want to be alone anymore, then you are setting yourself up for failure.  It is extremely important to realize what you want and need from a partner in order to succeed in all your romantic endeavors.



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Jenny Woodland
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