Is Co-Habitation a Relationship Killer?

Posted May 16, 2011 by

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Adult dating lives have definitely taken a far more free-loving approach to love as many couples now live together before marriage.  Although singles and couples have become far more liberal then they were just decades ago, it seems that for many individuals building a love nest with their lovers come with ulterior motives.

According to an annual online dating survey, 61 percent of women have admitted to moving in with their boyfriends because they needed someone to help pay the rent.  It’s tragic that we live in a world that is so dependent on going in debt to pay for basic amenities, however what is even more tragic is that so many young couples are using their partners as roommates rather than lovers.

When you move in with someone you’re in a relationship with, it is essential for both individuals to understand that they are making a huge life decision that will affect many aspects of their relationship either for the better or for the worse.  When making the decision to move in with each other, it is important to engage in an open and honest discussion about motivations, future goals and personal agendas of each party.

It is also important to know that when you do decide to move in with your lover, you must be doing it for the right reasons and not because they can help you pay the hydro bill.  So many relationships lose the spark in their relationship after deciding to shack up simply because their intentions were selfish.

Co-habitation is a great life lesson to many ill-intentioned individuals, however it can also be one of the most rewarding experiences of your relationship and your life if you take the plunge for blossoming love rather than piling debt.


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Paul Abbey
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Paul Abbey has a Masters Degree in Sexual Health from the University of Sydney in Australia. He has authored several self-help novels and has been a guest speaker in four Continents and many different cities from around the world. At, Abbey is the leading authority in human sexuality and he strives to help shape the dating community into a more relevant and understanding place for both men and women.